... In a survey of college students reported in J. Richard Udry's The Social Context of Marriage, 40% believed love was a feeling or kind of attraction and said things like: "Love represents a magnetic attraction between two persons." But 20% thought love had more to do with companionship and patience, and they said things like: "Love is helping the other person whenever he needs it...being his companion. It's having common goals, dreams, and ambitions." Still another 20% thought of love in terms of "giving": "Love is giving--time, understanding, trust, yourself." And 17% responded they thought of love in terms of security: "Love is having security in being wanted and knowing you have someone to rely on." Finally, 3% looked at love in terms of efficiency, practical purposes, or roles: "Love for the girl is cooking for him, washing his clothes and keeping the home in order. For the man it is providing security, safety, and helping his wife."